This Generation has dismantled the definition of love!!

Hey!!

As per my blog concerned I am not in search of anything related to affection in rush,yes but little bit disillusioned with the leading trend of being coldblooded, the reason behind writing these words is the conclusion that I had experienced over the years. As I have seen my friends, colleagues and the strangers I met with a sorrow of not finding true love, somewhere somehow it is the trending topic to converse like what the F**k is wrong with this generation!

Some people find it easy to fall in love, others not so considerable. We tend to fall in love with people who meet a certain standards in our mind.

This intuitive criterion is based on our past experiences, relationship with our parents or events that have happened in our lives. Based on each individual’s subconscious standard, the reasons vary from person to person on why it’s so hard to fall in love.

Loving a person can be tremendously difficult -- here’s why:

FEAR OF COMMITMENT

The most common and biggest cause why it’s so hard to fall in love is a fear of commitment. Modern dating has become so ambiguous, confusing and mystifying. Some couples have commitment issues and never seem to want to agree the terms of being “official.” While some are unenthusiastic to discuss labels, others are left with not knowing if that individual is the right one.

Hence, some people have a fear of commitment since it wants attention and dedication. Love requires us to challenge our own laziness, impulsiveness and boredom, which is hard for most people to do.

FEAR OF FAILED RELATIONSHIPS

It’s become so public to see the people around us getting screwed over. It’s practically difficult to trust someone these days.

We've all heard stories from our friends, family and colleagues being connected to some sort of cheating scandal. As a result, some have major belief and truth issues, while others might sense burdened with insecurity from their partner.

SUPERFICIALITY AND SHALLOWNESS

Some people are extremely shallow, and it doesn't help to know that a lot of people care almost appearances when looking for a partner. Hence, it can make a person continue with extreme caution.

WALKING OUT IS EASIER

A relationship requires a lot of time and efforts. Some people aren't necessarily keen to put in the effort and would rather break it off. With this being said, for some people, it’s easy to walk out since they know they have other options.

PROCESS OF RECOVERY

After falling in love, you have to pick up the sections from the heartbreak. We become protected because our feelings have been hurt in the past.

We'd rather not leap into things because we know very well how abandoned and awful heartbreak can feel. Giving another person the power to put you through the same pain is never easy to go through.

HAVING HIGH STANDARDS

As we grow older, we add more things to our list of expectation of what we look for. We recognize what we want in personality qualities, physical attraction, values, interests, etc. This makes finding a partner tricky and messy, because each person has a certain score for his or herself to determine and govern his or her own worth.

When we meet someone, we incline to point out the negative aspects we see and focus on those. It’s absolutely good to maintain high standards because you want to be with somebody who matches your worth, but sometimes, standards can become unattainable.

This will only result in constant disappointments.

Quite frankly, a lot of people think and feel that they can afford to wait and rather concentrate on getting their careers off the ground.

UNKNOWN DEFINITION OF LOVE

For some, love is a sentiment of being in the moment much more than just being loved. For some others, love requires a lot of personal growth.

Our culture has dismantled the definition of love through the revelation of Disney and Hollywood ideals. When someone doesn't meet the true love standards portrayed in the movies, one can be weary of what it means to fall in love.

Very few couples lock eyes and just know that they've found “the one” In their life. Keep in mind that love might not come as natural or as intensely as it does in the movies.

People says God has created someone for you, as the matches made up in the heaven. Does it really mean? I think the people who don’t end up with their soul mates and handling bad and toxic relationship life, God had the major conflicts with those people.

Anyway, I wish everybody to get an essential need of life after money which is the hand of someone to hold your’s.

GOOD LUCK!!